what the hell do i do????

[Hornblower]

Thank you for the kind words Derek and yes I do think that I am a lucky man.

LUMPY SOD OFF.
I'm dissle, dyisslek, dyslexik oh bugger I cant spell and I mix up numbers I had a test last year when I went to college and ITS OFFICIAL :f :f

 

[B1rdie]

Birdie
believe it or not you and I are not so different, a part of my profession (A path that I chose to follow) is suicide prevention and anti bullying, also Drug councelling.

Maybe I am looking at it from a different perspective to you as the natural defenses of a Father of two girls springs to the fore. but believe me it has very little to do with my profession, and a lot to do with the realities of life

there are more Paedophiles roaming the streets than there are locked up in prison, Fact. 12 years ago there was an 80 year old Paedophile after my daughter who was only 13 at the time, and the police could not do anything about him.

BB has sought advice on this forum and I have given her advice that has stood my daughters in good stead, if she chooses to take on board that advice fine, if she doesn't that is also fine it is her life, she knows the guy better than I do and he may be genuine, but there is absolutely nothing wrong in being suspicious of a man of 34 being interested in a relationship with a 16 year old girl.

Hornblower, I am glad things worked out for you and Toots, and there are always exceptions to the rule. I don't know the figures but I am sure that statistically a situation like yours would end in tears more often than not.
Please don't think I am being arrogant or condescending as that is not my intention, but as I stated BB asked for advice and I have given advice that I would give to my own daughters.
good luck to both you and toots and hope you have many more years of happiness.

Derek
I now even more, feel I am correct, you have just answered most of my claim, your life is driven and guided by fear, so are most people's sadly.

Please reread your own posts from as neutral a perspective as possible, not just relating to this one post. I hope you will start to realise that we can guide, but we cant wrap everyone in cotton wool.

It may turn out for this girl that she has a relationship and it lasts for just 1 year. it may also be the greatest year of her life, who knows and if it fails who cares you pick yourself up and try again without holding back.

Life is for living and too short to live it in fear.

I must also say that I am trying to stay only in the sport arena, as working with depressed ( not necessary clinical depression) people gave me a depressed outlook. I truly believe even you and your collegues would get great benefit from counselling in a totally confidential manner.

I takes a bigger man to seek help than to block it all out. I am sure in your line of work you have seen and heard so much, (I cant think of a word to describe it,) that subconciously it goes into your head and blurs your opinions, counselling would be good to clean out the garbage.

The hard part is finding a good one.

 

[derek kelly]

After the infamous riots at Manchester Prison in 1990, councelling was offered to some of the staff involved, I turned it down, and seeing the results of this so called councelling I am very glad I did, as the majority of those that took the councelling ended up feeling worse than they did before.
one of the rolls I took on as a Prison Officer is that of Hostage negotiator, the course is very intense and involved, shortly after I had finished the course a female colleague was taken hostage and I was called in to help deal with the situation, however I didn't get the chance to use my skills as the team at the door dealt with it admirably. again councelling was offered to those involved and again staff came away feeling worse than they did before and during the incident.
we all have one life, and in that life we have decisions to make and we stand or fall by those decisions, and if we were to get the chance to relive our lives and we reversed some of those decisions who is to say that things would turn out better. if I make a decision and it turns out wrong I don't feel the need for someone to tell me where I have gone wrong after all what do councellors base their expertise on a couple of years in college or life itself?
I wouldn't be so arrogant as to say councelling doesn't work full stop, as I do a bit of councelling myself, but what I will say is, it isn't the answer to all lifes problems everyone of us lives our lives with certain fears but there is nothing wrong with that it is what makes us human, and I for one would not change anything about the way I am.

 

[osprey03]

Why don't you talk to your dad ? Simple as that ain't it ??

 

[B1rdie]

After the infamous riots at Manchester Prison in 1990, councelling was offered to some of the staff involved, I turned it down, and seeing the results of this so called councelling I am very glad I did, as the majority of those that took the councelling ended up feeling worse than they did before.
one of the rolls I took on as a Prison Officer is that of Hostage negotiator, the course is very intense and involved, shortly after I had finished the course a female colleague was taken hostage and I was called in to help deal with the situation, however I didn't get the chance to use my skills as the team at the door dealt with it admirably. again councelling was offered to those involved and again staff came away feeling worse than they did before and during the incident.
we all have one life, and in that life we have decisions to make and we stand or fall by those decisions, and if we were to get the chance to relive our lives and we reversed some of those decisions who is to say that things would turn out better. if I make a decision and it turns out wrong I don't feel the need for someone to tell me where I have gone wrong after all what do councellors base their expertise on a couple of years in college or life itself?
I wouldn't be so arrogant as to say councelling doesn't work full stop, as I do a bit of councelling myself, but what I will say is, it isn't the answer to all lifes problems everyone of us lives our lives with certain fears but there is nothing wrong with that it is what makes us human, and I for one would not change anything about the way I am.

Derek
You again are basing your decisions on the perception that councelling does not work, I agree it does not if when you receive it you spend all of your time reliving the whole nightmare and not receiving treatment, I treat my clients. I get paid for results not to just listen and say "and how do you feel about that" answer " pretty f**king sick now I just relived it telling you " " and how do feel about that" etc etc, no pain relief just more pain.

There is absolutely no reason to live in any fear, worrying about things that have not happened will make you old before your time!!

I am sure you beleive that you have it right, only what is right for you may not be for anyone else and I mean anyone.

 

[Centaur]

B1rdie

I am 63 years old, have lived and worked all over the world and after spending 30 minutes rereading your posts you undoubtedly the most arrogant, self-opinionated and obnoxious snot I have not had the displeasure to meet. ianrobbo reckons this is all a windup. If so it is unfair to hijack a young girls thread and you should apologise. I personally believe you are genuine and I am truly staggered at your belief that your are omnipotent. Change your name to God. He's a myth too! man8um

 

[B1rdie]

I am 63 years old, have lived and worked all over the world and after spending 30 minutes rereading your posts you undoubtedly the most arrogant, self-opinionated and obnoxious snot I have not had the displeasure to meet. ianrobbo reckons this is all a windup. If so it is unfair to hijack a young girls thread and you should apologise. I personally believe you are genuine and I am truly staggered at your belief that your are omnipotent. Change your name to God. He's a myth too! man8um

63 and still living in ignorance.

They say "you can't teach an old dog new tricks" you it would seem are living proof.

They also say "use it or lose it" seems you lost it.

 

[B1rdie]

Hijacking or natural progression. What on Earth would the poor young lady be thinking of if she took the advice of a load of arseholes on here. It is a similar quandry that we all find ourselves in come tyre time, birthday time, screen, tax disc holder, what song, whatever. Advice, even in the best interest of the plaintiff, without the full facts or even knowing either of them can only be subjective at best, downright dangerous at worst. Look at some of the advice on tyre pressures and suspension set up, not to think about riding skills. Potentially lethal. g0551p c7u8 :bang:

Very true and as I originally said, age is in the mind and ask questions, no personal experiences tainting my advice.

Love comes from the heart, not the head and if she feels it then pursue it.

 

[Centaur]

Advice lumpy

Generally agree with you,however,the young lady asked and peeps on here gave their opinion and there was no problem until Mr Knowitall started deriding people for their opinions. No-one asked him to comment on their postings. He was quite free to add his own advice to Sam but he preferred to take his usual twisted path and show how clever he thinks he is! Definitely my last post on this thread.

 

[derek kelly]

how can you possibly advise without experience? following your way of thinking Birdie should we let children play on railway lines, we know it is dangerous but let the kids find out for themselves, of course we don't, we give advice to try to keep them from harm and from making mistakes, I have lost count of the number of times I have heard the phrase 'I wish I'd listened to my parents'.
Sam will make her decision whatever, but I think the reason she has sought advice on here is because she already knows what her father will advise.

 

[Wolfie]

tyre pressures 36-43 back and front.

dino oil every 6000-8000

tax disc behind the rider on the left side.

harrier jump jet screen

heated grips

carb 24l inj 22l

carb faster

carb better mileage

end of forum cause i have just answered all the questions.

 

[derek kelly]

end of forum cause i have just answered all the questions.

How did life start?
Is there a god?
Why do people by blue or pink birds?
who owns the sea?
Why is the sky blue?
Why do we wait for the hottest time of year in this country, then go abroad?
can I have an Ice cream?
Why is it some farts smell and others don't?
Why does my wife wait for me to leave the room and then start talking to me?
Why do soap manufacturers make pink soap?

 

[Wolfie]

stop living in fear and read some of my previous posts.

















































































BOO!!!

 

[derek kelly]

Derek has asked me to answer this post as he can't due to the fact that he is cowering behind the computer table, and he says he is not coming out until the nasty people stop scaring him.

 

[B1rdie]

If you can't be serious I won't play anymore man8um

 

[Wolfie]

thought he had scored 26 last year???

 

[Bikerbaby]

FFS
:} :} come on guys get a life I can't believe wot I'm reading are we being suckered in here by someone on another biker site posing as a young female
I can imagine the other side splitting they're sides with laughter
I know I am
BB if your genuine please accept my apologies :bow: but there are tabloid and mag agony aunts out there that could give you much better advice than a load of hairy arsed bikers

Oh by the way can anyone advise the best treatment for piles
Stans suffering badly and is too embarrassed to ask for himself man8um

who's the other side?????

and yes i am a 16yr old female, why don't you just ask shaun he can prove that.

 

[derek kelly]

If you can't be serious I won't play anymore man8um

Life is too short to be serious all the time

 

[ianrobbo1]

what was it I was going to say?? :dunno:

 

[gerryc]

you haven't said wheather you've known the fella since you were a kid or have only know him recently.
If you've known him all your life then unless there's something wrong with him I seriously doubt if he's sees you as a prospective partner, but more of a neice growing into a young woman.
Who wouldn't be protective of that.