what the hell do i do????

[derek kelly]

I personally have never tried to control my daughters, only guide them, they know that whatever advice I give I do with their best interests at heart, it is up to them if they choose to follow or ignore that advice, and I will stand by them whatever they decide.
As I have stated earlier if when either of my daughters were 16 they had come home and said they were dating a man of 34, I would have had serious words with the guy, and I would advise my daughters accordingly, there is no way on this earth I would disown them just because I didn't agree with their decision.

 

[gypsy]

Exactly.

If you do the job right by the time they are 16 they are mature enough to ask.

I hope that good parents would understand and they are the ones that should act in a mature manner as well, although it would seem highly unlikly judging by some of the responses on here.

Just a thought do you have any children of your own and what age/ages are they ?

 

[tootyfluti]

I personally have never tried to control my daughters, only guide them, they know that whatever advice I give I do with their best interests at heart, it is up to them if they choose to follow or ignore that advice, and I will stand by them whatever they decide.
As I have stated earlier if when either of my daughters were 16 they had come home and said they were dating a man of 34, I would have had serious words with the guy, and I would advise my daughters accordingly, there is no way on this earth I would disown them just because I didn't agree with their decision.

I have absolutley no problems with that at all, and you`ll all be glad to hear that is my final word on the subject.,













well, maybe

 

[B1rdie]

Just a thought do you have any children of your own and what age/ages are they ?

Not that having or not having any is at all relevent.

I have 2 sons, 22 and 28, both of whom encouraged me to do the job.

 

[B1rdie]

I personally have never tried to control my daughters, only guide them, they know that whatever advice I give I do with their best interests at heart, it is up to them if they choose to follow or ignore that advice, and I will stand by them whatever they decide.
As I have stated earlier if when either of my daughters were 16 they had come home and said they were dating a man of 34, I would have had serious words with the guy, and I would advise my daughters accordingly, there is no way on this earth I would disown them just because I didn't agree with their decision.

That sounds ok as long as you give him a chance and the serious words are not abusive and are the same ones you put to your Daughter.

It takes 2

 

[derek kelly]

That sounds ok as long as you give him a chance and the serious words are not abusive and are the same ones you put to your Daughter.

It takes 2

I am never abusive,

 

[marcella]

from what i read in your posts derek i agree your not, we all fuck up sometime its knowing when to apologize that makes the difference, even to your kids



and no shithead bought me a horse, that puts you streets ahead in the father stakes :bow: (i hate horses by the way) its a long story and i dont have the typing skills required:dunno: :}

 

[derek kelly]

In some ways I have a lot to thank my father for, It is the things I missed out on in my childhood that have made me a better parent, I don't hold anything against my father as there could be any number of reasons as to the way he was, but that was his life and he led it as he saw fit.

 

[BlackBirdBaz]

Exactly.
I hope that good parents would understand and they are the ones that should act in a mature manner as well, although it would seem highly unlikly judging by some of the responses on here.

I am suprised you subscribe to a forum with so many immature people on it ?

Its that a professional opinion or a misinformed one ?

Baz (who has no problems at all being immature, I intend to stay that way as long as I can, its certainly not done my kids any harm)

 

[marcella]

hey that kinda offers me a little hope! seeing as how i'v f*cked up the last 20 years, selfish bastard that i am, i was rarely there due to 12 hour shifts and the band! reckon my lads still see me as ok cos we can still have a giggle even though i was rarely there:yo:

 

[Bikerbaby]

B1rdie, i started this thread to ask for advise and it appears you have jacked it and caused a fight, which really to be honest has been of on help what so ever


and for the record i'm 16 i have a right to be immature when i want to so do therest of the members. now please stop physco analysing us and try to play along nicly. this may be the nut house but i like it this way and don't need counciling to be any different and i'm sure if anybodu else would like some counciling then they will get in touch with you in due course

 

[B1rdie]

B1rdie, i started this thread to ask for advise and it appears you have jacked it and caused a fight, which really to be honest has been of on help what so ever


and for the record i'm 16 i have a right to be immature when i want to so do therest of the members. now please stop physco analysing us and try to play along nicly. this may be the nut house but i like it this way and don't need counciling to be any different and i'm sure if anybodu else would like some counciling then they will get in touch with you in due course

I apologise to all.

I clearly made a mistake in a few areas c7u8

 

[marcella]

time for bb to accept b1rdies well worded apology and put this to rest me thinks

 

[Bikerbaby]

acepted.


rest i wish it would mind u i haven't saw him lately seeing as he binned the bike and hasn't told me