what the hell do i do????

[gypsy]

dont think it was mentioned what bike he rides Sanc? :dunno:

 

[blumeeni]

FFS
:} :} come on guys get a life I can't believe wot I'm reading are we being suckered in here by someone on another biker site posing as a young female
I can imagine the other side splitting they're sides with laughter
I know I am
BB if your genuine please accept my apologies :bow: but there are tabloid and mag agony aunts out there that could give you much better advice than a load of hairy arsed bikers

Oh by the way can anyone advise the best treatment for piles
Stans suffering badly and is too embarrassed to ask for himself man8um

 

[stan the man]

pete...i could always ask the black doctor(whom shoved his large index finger up your a**e) to poke them back up from where they came :neenaw:

BB, gotta agree with the "sensible" one's on here,keep it platonic[sp]and find someone your own age with similar interests to form a relationship with....def the way to go girl :yo:

 

[bikers_moll]

Hi BB

My tuppence worth.

I can remember when I was 18 fell for one of the nicest guys Ive ever come across, used to feel safe with him an all that and he did look out for me, but when push came to shove even though I'd of gone full on into a relationship with him he kindly pointed out a few things. Like how young I was not even really wise to the adult world and he felt sure I'd find someone eventually (lol didnt tell me what tvats guys could be though). I appreciate his gentle way of turning my affections down because in hindsight it wouldnt of worked after a few yrs I would of felt hampered and wanting to be free to find someone nearer my own age.

Iv noticed that relationships where by the lass is younger than the guy by quite a bit tend to fizzle away even if they marry.

What youngsters dont realise is that ppl slow down the older they get it may not be intentional but it happens. An if you are the older person trying to keep up with the younger one it nearly kills you with the effort. lol

I would treat his friendship as a welcome blessing if anything where to happen let it come from him, I've probably been in your situation quite a few times and have thought better of my actions and backed off and waited to see if it went further bonus if it did and only slightly heartbreaking if it didnt.

Look at it this way would you really like to date your dad ! and would your dads mates in turn welcome you as a partner or would they leer at your behind your back. I know your just gonna say it wouldnt bother you but it would eat away at your subconcious.

All I can really say is be carefull he may be the caring, strength providing male but his actions so far have been to make sure your safe as he does know your dad. Theres nothing I wouldnt do for my kids and their mates even in daylight hrs I'll take em home just to make sure theyre safe and theyve arrived at destination.

On the other hand its ok for you I have the added problem of the 20 somethings tryin to get to me but I cant seem to get my head around accepting any of them because they wouldnt really be that much older than my eldest. c7u8 which is really scarey.

You guys moan about being single you wanna try being a lass thats single :neenaw:

 

[Rods]

there is a chap at work who is 40 (last month in fact). his wife is now 20 or so. they met when she was 16 and still at school. they got married a couple of years ago and are very happy together.

HOWEVER the girl has only just seen her family for the first time in 3 years. my colleage has not yet met them. bb - you seem to care for your dad very much... is your relationship with him worth sacrificing for the POSSIBILITY of a relationship with this chap?

a girl once left her long term partner for me. we were very happy for 3 years.. before she left me for someone else. a leopard never changes its spots.

i hope you don't find the posts on this thread patronising... i think the peeps on here have got loads of life experience :bow: . although it may not be what you wish to hear, i think it is probably worth listening to their advice.

good luck with whatever you decide to do. keep smiling x

 

[cianocarroll125]

bit obvious u've not got a teenage daughter.

I'll take that as a compliment (I Think)

"Something i have learned is that if you get with someone and they have left someone for you, they'll more than likely do it again, ie leave you for someone else, grass is always greener and all that." Quote - me

"a girl once left her long term partner for me. we were very happy for 3 years.. before she left me for someone else. a leopard never changes its spots." - Rods

See, told ya so!!

Get out have fun!

Cian
PS I'm 25 which appears to be the limit from what others are saying! :yo:

 

[D.S.]

FFS
BB if your genuine please accept my apologies :bow: but there are tabloid and mag agony aunts out there that could give you much better advice than a load of hairy arsed bikers

Hairy arsed bikers? More like Farah wearing, pipe smoking, barge floating motorcyclists! :}
I think she's genuine and have seen her over on Visordown too http://www.visordown.com/forums/member.php?u=18988

 

[tootyfluti]

For those who think age is an issue.....

and I`m not saying whether Sam should go for this guy or not, that is entirely up to her but
Age doesn`t have to be an issue, Andy and I got together 10 years ago when he was 40 and I was 18. On Thursday we will have been married for 6 years, yes it has been tough and you really do find out who your real friends are, and no it hasn`t all been the stuff of fairytales, there are days when we want to kill each other, days when no matter what we piss each other person off big style and more often than not times when I know that the only place in the world I belong is with Andy.............. shit got all soppy there and forgot the point of the post c7u8
Sam , have a good hard think about whether this guy is the real deal or just an infatuation, why risk what could be a really good friend iof you have no idea of his feelings :dunno:

 

[B1rdie]

and I`m not saying whether Sam should go for this guy or not, that is entirely up to her but
Age doesn`t have to be an issue, Andy and I got together 10 years ago when he was 40 and I was 18. On Thursday we will have been married for 6 years, yes it has been tough and you really do find out who your real friends are, and no it hasn`t all been the stuff of fairytales, there are days when we want to kill each other, days when no matter what we piss each other person off big style and more often than not times when I know that the only place in the world I belong is with Andy.............. shit got all soppy there and forgot the point of the post c7u8
Sam , have a good hard think about whether this guy is the real deal or just an infatuation, why risk what could be a really good friend iof you have no idea of his feelings :dunno:

Thank goodness reality strikes! I was begining to think I was in the wrong job listening to some of the crap posted re age. and other BS reasons People should not offer advice based on own good or bad experiences folks remember the Past does not equal the Future.
:yo:

 

[Centaur]

Birdie

Whatever you do Sam ignore Birdie. This is his profession and you know what a pile of cr*p physcologists and the like come up with. They want to get us like the Yanks who can't even fart without contacting their shrink before or afterwards. ........Am I joking???? Guess!!! :blush:

 

[derek kelly]

Thank goodness reality strikes! I was begining to think I was in the wrong job listening to some of the crap posted re age. and other BS reasons People should not offer advice based on own good or bad experiences folks remember the Past does not equal the Future.
:yo:

My advice is not from any experiences good or bad, just common sense, just because someones opinions differ from yours does not mean that it is Crap, and if you cannot accept that other people have opinions then yes maybe you are in the wrong job.
I was speaking as a father of two daughters and if either of mine had come to me at 16 and said meet my boyfriend he is 34, I would have had strong words with the feller, however now my youngest is 25 if she were to come to me now and say meet my boyfriend he is 43, then I would be more inclined to accept him.

 

[B1rdie]

50 to 30 ok as both mature.36 to 16 is not. I have really enjoyed your posts BB and you bring a bit of life to us old fogies at times BUT you are still very young and as Wolfie and Pierre says... he is a trusted friend and would probably be mortified if he knew how you felt. Sorry to be a stick in the mud but older in your case should be mid 20s at most. hope I haven't offended you. Please think carefully before you tackle him about it as you could lose a friend and someone to pillion with. Bill.

Whatever you do Sam ignore Birdie. This is his profession and you know what a pile of cr*p physcologists and the like come up with. They want to get us like the Yanks who can't even fart without contacting their shrink before or afterwards. ........Am I joking???? Guess!!! :blush:

I must assume that my point hit 1 of the intended targets.

I am not a clinical Psychologist to which you seem to refer, you should try reading my posts before commenting as I have not offered advice with regard to age I made a statement that age is not an issue.

Where did I say contact a psychiatrist?

 

[B1rdie]

My advice is not from any experiences good or bad, just common sense, just because someones opinions differ from yours does not mean that it is Crap, and if you cannot accept that other people have opinions then yes maybe you are in the wrong job.
I was speaking as a father of two daughters and if either of mine had come to me at 16 and said meet my boyfriend he is 34, I would have had strong words with the feller, however now my youngest is 25 if she were to come to me now and say meet my boyfriend he is 43, then I would be more inclined to accept him.

You and fathers likeyou are the reason you should not give advice as it is based on your own fears.

Again I made a statement regarding age I did not offer advice.

I very much do hear others advice that does not mean I have to accept it.

You may be suprised to find that girls/women of that age are probably more mature in there outlook and capable of making better decisions than you are.

Common sense does not count in this instance as nobody would have relations beyond certain age differencs and that would be very sad and limiting like your beliefs.

 

[derek kelly]

You and fathers likeyou are the reason you should not give advice as it is based on your own fears.

Again I made a statement regarding age I did not offer advice.

I very much do hear others advice that does not mean I have to accept it.

You may be suprised to find that girls/women of that age are probably more mature in there outlook and capable of making better decisions than you are.

Common sense does not count in this instance as nobody would have relations beyond certain age differencs and that would be very sad and limiting like your beliefs.

Judging by your replies I guess centaur is not far from the truth with your profession.
As I have stated I have two daughters, they have grown up into decent respectable people, this is as a result of good advice and decisions made by my wife and myself, so now my daughters have the basics in life to make their own way which they are doing, and they still come to us for advice.

If you think it is moral for a 34 year old man to have relations with a 16 year old girl then I would say come for a look around Wakefield prison.

 

[B1rdie]

Judging by your replies I guess centaur is not far from the truth with your profession.
As I have stated I have two daughters, they have grown up into decent respectable people, this is as a result of good advice and decisions made by my wife and myself, so now my daughters have the basics in life to make their own way which they are doing, and they still come to us for advice.

If you think it is moral for a 34 year old man to have relations with a 16 year old girl then I would say come for a look around Wakefield prison.

I never mentioned anyones age, having said that what in hell has A) Morels got to do with it and B) Wakefield prison!!
As far as my profession goes it is mostly through bad advice given with good intentions by parents, or other reasons that the demand for help is at an all time high!

 

[Centaur]

You tell him Derek

What a load of cr*p from B1rdie. Don't use common sense????? Sorry B1rdie but assholes like you make me uke: keep your professional advice for those poor suckers whom someone else is paying for them to receive....probably me as a taxpayer. He is too old and unless he is a perv(which I am sure he isn't) he is would probably be horrified. Go and peddle your pc cr*p somewhere else.... man8um

 

[B1rdie]

What a load of cr*p from B1rdie. Don't use common sense????? Sorry B1rdie but assholes like you make me uke: keep your professional advice for those poor suckers whom someone else is paying for them to receive....probably me as a taxpayer. He is too old and unless he is a perv(which I am sure he isn't) he is would probably be horrified. Go and peddle your pc cr*p somewhere else.... man8um

Ok small minded moron

 

[ianrobbo1]

FAO William, your biting m8,!! been on the "single" again?? :}

Birdie your a "wicked wicked" man stop being naughty :t

 

[derek kelly]

Ok small minded moron

If I were to say that to one of the Psychologists at work, I would be told that the reason I made that statement is because I have lost the argument and have a low intellect.

 

[B1rdie]

If I were to say that to one of the Psychologists at work, I would be told that the reason I made that statement is because I have lost the argument and have a low intellect.

That would be correct in your case.

I only debate with people intelligent enough to see all sides of the discussion when they offer abuse etc I reply in a way they can understand and end the discussion there.

I assume that your reference to Psychologists indicates you would have a job that needs them, therefore that is the stock trained response, it also ensures that you continue to debate with them because if you dont speak they have nothing to listen too, then there job would be useless! They also just listen and very rearly if ever offer cures to problems but now we are getting into another whole different ballgame.