what the hell do i do????

[Bikerbaby]

ok let me cut i long long story short.

theres this guy i really really like. When i'm with him i feel really safe like no one can touch me,. he's really protective over me, stops when he sees me, gives me lifts home (even has to go and get a helmet for that), he wont let anybody hurt me, well thats already been proven. only i think he's back with his ex and he's not told me. we are really good mates, we met when my dad put him through his bike test.

so what do i do, move on when i know i really want him, tell him how i feel and let him decide. or fight for him.


slight complication--he's somewhat older than me.

HELP ME PLEASE

 

[Honeymonster]

Difficult BB

ok let me cut i long long story short.

so what do i do, move on when i know i really want him, tell him how i feel and let him decide. or fight for him.

slight complication--he's somewhat older than me.

My two pennies BB, Ask him outright if he is back with his ex, explain how you feel about him and then decide what you want to do depending on the repsonse you get.

Why should the fact he is older be a complication? if two people share the same feelings? whose to say what is right in terms of age gap.

Hope it works out for you :beer:

 

[Bikerbaby]

an 18 year age gap. i'll ask him bout his ex and if he's with her i think i'll just shut up

 

[cianocarroll125]

Hiya B B,

Hope you don't mind my 2p's worth, here goes.

First off, seems like you have got over your last heartbreak, so well done on that!!

Secondly, don't let the fact he is older put you off. If you like each other, i don't see what difference it should make (can you tell I don't have a teenage daughter yet?)

How far has the relationship gone? I don't need all the details, but is he aware of how you feel or not? If so, and you think he is back with his ex, it says one thing to me.

Something i have learned is that if you get with someone and they have left someone for you, they'll more than likely do it again, ie leave you for someone else, grass is always greener and all that.

Of course, this is not a hard and fast rule, but if i were you, i'd enter with caution. I'm sure there is a very appropriate proverb or such like to quote now, but i cant think of any off the top of me bonce!

You're young, you have been hurt in the past, you'll be hurt again I'm sure, but just have fun, you'll find him in the end.

Cian

 

[Bikerbaby]

he has no idea how i feel. Nor do i know how to tell him. bit obvious u've not got a teenage daughter. Mind you my dad doesn't mind us spending time with each other infact he normally asks him if he'd mind taking me on the back incase summat happens and my dad has to take off.


i know a bit bout his ex the fact she likes her drink gets drunk and violent and that none of his friends like her because of this.

how far has the relationship gone????

well, not very we are just realy good mates spend time together general hugs and kiss on the check stuff.

 

[Wolfie]

sorry but i would not be happy if you were my daughter.

there is a big difference in getting on the back of a bike and getting on him.

I would go apeshit if anything more than being friends was to happen.

 

[Bikerbaby]

that was a pasta and sauce and keybored moment thanks wolfie



thing is dads really protective over me a male trainee even so much as says hi to me and he makes them do u turns in a small space. bloke in question is the only person allowed to have me on the back of his bike.

 

[Wolfie]

because he is your dads TRUSTED FRIEND.

and not seen as somebody who wants to shag his daughter.

 

[B1rdie]

an 18 year age gap. i'll ask him bout his ex and if he's with her i think i'll just shut up

Age is a state of mind, my girlfriend when I am in the states is 24 and a looker,
I am 51! Age is just a word we attatch the meaning to it..............

Therefore if you want to be with someone, FOCUS your mind on what you want, we only get in life what we tell our subconcious to achieve that counts for good and bad.

If you have genuine feelings for him ask him directly is he back or going back with his X and look at his physiology you can tell if he is telling the truth.

Life is to short to waste time hoping he may come your way, if you like the answer then tell him how you feel from your heart.

Do it as soon as possible.

Alternativly post a pic I am available. :}

 

[Smoothandquick]

agree on the age thing....

but......others may not agree with you....it's ok saying that as long as the 2 of you are happy that everyone else can go and poke it, but it is never that easy when you get grief from friends and family and indeed complete strangers......like the old movie classic "nice to meet your daughter" scenario....imagine how you'd feel if a total stranger came out with that ? :dunno:

however, if your heart tells you that's what you want then you should follow it...ask him outright, no point in beating around the bush...c7u8

hope what ever you do works out.....

 

[Samster]

"bloke in question is the only person allowed to have me on the back of his bike"............

Out of respect for your old man, stay away. You should be sensing trouble with a capital TRUB on the horizon Sam.

Re-focus your sights is my advice. :-:

 

[frenchuk]

100% what Wolfie said. Plus, have you considered that he might behave like that with you not because he fancies you but because he sees you as a niece-like and this is what any uncle (blood-related or not) would do?

 

[Centaur]

Age gap

50 to 30 ok as both mature.36 to 16 is not. I have really enjoyed your posts BB and you bring a bit of life to us old fogies at times BUT you are still very young and as Wolfie and Pierre says... he is a trusted friend and would probably be mortified if he knew how you felt. Sorry to be a stick in the mud but older in your case should be mid 20s at most. hope I haven't offended you. Please think carefully before you tackle him about it as you could lose a friend and someone to pillion with. Bill.

 

[Coggy]

You may lose what you've got if you tell him you want to have his babies

Best be subtle but direct...
%$fan

 

[derek kelly]

BB my advice for what it is worth is keep him only as a friend, you will find someone nearer your own age, who shares similar interests, when I was 18 I wasn't seriously courting anyone and I signed on for nine years in the Navy thinking that I was going to be young free and single for a long time, less than two years later I was married, and in five days time I will have been happily married for 28 years.
As Bill says 50 to 30 the age difference is irrelevant but at 16 I think even mid twenties is too old for you,
Good luck BB, don't rush into anything enjoy your youth, you'll soon be going out and getting drunk (legally) and meeting different people, when you meet the right person you will know.

 

[Coggy]

50 to 30 might be OK,but looking longer term 70 to 50?? 80 to 60??

 

[Smoothandquick]

funny....

gets just as scary the other way too ....%$fan

 

[Mikeyzf]

Hi BB.Ithink you'll find you'll be opening a whole can of worms.You have to realise that at some point your dad would twig what was going on,and regardless of what you said,he's probably going to want to break his best mates legs,which would lose you a friend and your dad his best mate.Would you want that?
Bear in mind that 2 years down the line,when you're out on the piss with your mates,eying up blokes in the pub,you're probably gonna be quite relieved you never got involved.
Like people on here have said,you're dad's happy for you to go on his mates bike because he trusts him.
Best bet is to stay friends :k.It's your decision in the end though,and they do say"love is blind"8l1nd
Good luck BB,whatever you decide.

 

[BlackBirdBaz]

Hi BB,

Without reading ALL the previous posts I will cut a long story short.

It will all end in tears.

The words 'Plague' & 'Avoid' spring to mind.

Baz.

 

[D.S.]

are you sure he's not a peadophile? :dunno: