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Bodmin
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FFS I give up, where's my vallium?dufus said:
The Penny Drops at last
I only offered you the loan of a jock-strap
The penny drops - it's that dangerous cocktail of money, arrogance and self-importance
Bet ya Dad paid for you to go to boarding school eh?
"How to win friends and influence people"
Great read - try it sometime?
chuffmeister said:
I only offered you the loan of a jock-strap
dufus said:
The penny drops - it's that dangerous cocktail of money, arrogance and self-importance
Bet ya Dad paid for you to go to boarding school eh?
dufus said:
"How to win friends and influence people"
Great read - try it sometime?
Steamy
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Do you mind if I have a quick word here?
I have just re-read Dufus' first post and, IMHO, it "could" be construed as treading on dodgy ground, but, IMHO, I truly believe that it was a light-hearted comment that got misinterpreted. As I said, this is just my perception of re-reading the original post and should not, in anyway, detract from the fact that Chuff has damaged his Blade and we ALL do genuinely feel for him and would offer any help and support we can.
As you know, I have also been the subject of some abuse from people who don't know me. It is very hurtful and, in my case, could have been very damaging to my livelihood and possibly casued the closure of my business. Now, I AM one to say something to someone's face, because I think it's right and proper to do so. The few of you who have met me will agree that this is the case and I do call "a spade a spade"!
Dufus, you have nothing to apologise for, IMHO, as I believe your comments were NOT meant maliciously. Chuff, you know full well that I will do what I can to help you get your baby back on the road and you have my number. I am NOT taking sides and I just wanted you to all know that I still think you're all pretty good people.
Bye for now.
I have just re-read Dufus' first post and, IMHO, it "could" be construed as treading on dodgy ground, but, IMHO, I truly believe that it was a light-hearted comment that got misinterpreted. As I said, this is just my perception of re-reading the original post and should not, in anyway, detract from the fact that Chuff has damaged his Blade and we ALL do genuinely feel for him and would offer any help and support we can.
As you know, I have also been the subject of some abuse from people who don't know me. It is very hurtful and, in my case, could have been very damaging to my livelihood and possibly casued the closure of my business. Now, I AM one to say something to someone's face, because I think it's right and proper to do so. The few of you who have met me will agree that this is the case and I do call "a spade a spade"!
Dufus, you have nothing to apologise for, IMHO, as I believe your comments were NOT meant maliciously. Chuff, you know full well that I will do what I can to help you get your baby back on the road and you have my number. I am NOT taking sides and I just wanted you to all know that I still think you're all pretty good people.
Bye for now.
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Embabe
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I think someone people are missing the point about what pride and joy actually means to a biker.
Here's my opinion for what it's worth.
Dufus you made a comment whether in jest or not only you know.
Chuff reacted adversely to that comment.
under the circumstances Dufus the right thing to do would be to apologise or send a pm to chuff explaining your views.
Being a member of any forum,organisation,society etc is about respect for fellow members, I will just mention a situation a short while back where two of our Welsh members who are also very good friends had a situation which tested their friendship to the very limits, the mishap was posted on here with a request that people did not comment on it, the rest of the forum honoured that request & the two are still very good friends however one wrong word could have destroyed everything.
Dufus even if you meant no malice with your comment the right thing to do once seeing the upset caused would be to bite the bullet & apologise, you would have gained a lot more respect had you done so, but to continue the argument & stir up so much animosity is not beneficial to yourself or the forum.
Dufus you made a comment whether in jest or not only you know.
Chuff reacted adversely to that comment.
under the circumstances Dufus the right thing to do would be to apologise or send a pm to chuff explaining your views.
Being a member of any forum,organisation,society etc is about respect for fellow members, I will just mention a situation a short while back where two of our Welsh members who are also very good friends had a situation which tested their friendship to the very limits, the mishap was posted on here with a request that people did not comment on it, the rest of the forum honoured that request & the two are still very good friends however one wrong word could have destroyed everything.
Dufus even if you meant no malice with your comment the right thing to do once seeing the upset caused would be to bite the bullet & apologise, you would have gained a lot more respect had you done so, but to continue the argument & stir up so much animosity is not beneficial to yourself or the forum.
Time for reflection Dufus
I think the problem as said earlier is that you came onto this community as a brash and arrogant "young" man, trampling over peep's sensibilities and acting as if you knew better than anyone. I am a relative newcomer and like you I made a mistake and posted inappropiately offending Russfraefyffie (sp). He reacted and I sat back and thought about what I had posted and resolved to be more considerate in the future. I still make mistakes but I am learning about the limits of the regulars on here and hope I have become a positive member on here. This unfortunately is typical of your posts.... Join Date: Mar 2007
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Happy birthday ems, hope ya tight ass dad got ya summit special
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If I thought your opinion mattered I would ask for it... but I didn't
You couldn't even wish Ems a Happy Birthday without having a pop at her Dad. We all have things we are a bit sensitive about and I think if you hurt someone the appropriate response is to apologise and not to try to justify your comment. I suggest you take a look at all your posts and count how many times you said something pleasant!
I think the problem as said earlier is that you came onto this community as a brash and arrogant "young" man, trampling over peep's sensibilities and acting as if you knew better than anyone. I am a relative newcomer and like you I made a mistake and posted inappropiately offending Russfraefyffie (sp). He reacted and I sat back and thought about what I had posted and resolved to be more considerate in the future. I still make mistakes but I am learning about the limits of the regulars on here and hope I have become a positive member on here. This unfortunately is typical of your posts.... Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: inside normally
Posts: 1,203
Happy birthday ems, hope ya tight ass dad got ya summit special
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If I thought your opinion mattered I would ask for it... but I didn't
You couldn't even wish Ems a Happy Birthday without having a pop at her Dad. We all have things we are a bit sensitive about and I think if you hurt someone the appropriate response is to apologise and not to try to justify your comment. I suggest you take a look at all your posts and count how many times you said something pleasant!
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Embabe
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Well said chap :kCentaur said:
Steamy
Having read everything,, I think you are right, Over reaction from Chuff,, It was a light hearted comment about gold levers FFS.
The bike sank in soft tarmac,, he wasn;t involved in an traffic accident & I hope he never is.
Chuff, hope you get the blade back to normal ASAP,, but put a puk under the phooker next time eh!
Now I truly know why I & many of the old school don't phookin post much on here any more.
Bert,, I still owe you a coffee d04l1ng
Having read everything,, I think you are right, Over reaction from Chuff,, It was a light hearted comment about gold levers FFS.
The bike sank in soft tarmac,, he wasn;t involved in an traffic accident & I hope he never is.
Chuff, hope you get the blade back to normal ASAP,, but put a puk under the phooker next time eh!
Now I truly know why I & many of the old school don't phookin post much on here any more.
Bert,, I still owe you a coffee d04l1ng
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dufus
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Where was I?
Right, in the cold light of day chuff I think you will see that I did not, nor intended any maliciuos comments, quite the opposite by trying to inject some mirth in what musta been a bad experience
From that point All I got was you don't know us so don't take the piss even though If you check back I was called a c*nt, prick,told to fuck off and variuos other abuse's.
My reply to this was that as very few on here know me but it was ok to abuse me with direct malicousness, I thought I had a reply to those double standards.
If you re-read my threads I neither called anyone an offensive name, told them to F*ck off and berated anyone at all, something that cannot be said of a few bird members within this thread.
I have learnt a valueable lesson today that an open forum is only as open as the loudest of those shouting and as such it was a dissapointment that the response by a few was on a par with a council estate i.q. test.
Did you overeact? I don't think there is any doubt, with good reason? only with your emotional side due to your bike being damaged, did I slate you poke fun with intent to make things worse? I don't feel so.
Right, in the cold light of day chuff I think you will see that I did not, nor intended any maliciuos comments, quite the opposite by trying to inject some mirth in what musta been a bad experience
From that point All I got was you don't know us so don't take the piss even though If you check back I was called a c*nt, prick,told to fuck off and variuos other abuse's.
My reply to this was that as very few on here know me but it was ok to abuse me with direct malicousness, I thought I had a reply to those double standards.
If you re-read my threads I neither called anyone an offensive name, told them to F*ck off and berated anyone at all, something that cannot be said of a few bird members within this thread.
I have learnt a valueable lesson today that an open forum is only as open as the loudest of those shouting and as such it was a dissapointment that the response by a few was on a par with a council estate i.q. test.
Did you overeact? I don't think there is any doubt, with good reason? only with your emotional side due to your bike being damaged, did I slate you poke fun with intent to make things worse? I don't feel so.
I must admit that many of what I thought were approachable people have indeed showed thier true colours and I for one am now questioning my time in B.I.R.D.
mick the knife
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No stay, just learn from your mistakes and move on like an honourable gentleman.dufus said:
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D.S.
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can someone please make this thread a sticky? p0pc0rn41
Steamy
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Don't let it get to you, Dufus. You're a big enough fella to take a bit of a rough time with the good. Feck me, if I'd have let some of the things said about me get to me then I'd be in a psych ward by now.dufus said:
It doesn't matter where you are or what you do there will always be a little clique of people who don't think anybody else should have an opinion. In my opinion this has got blown out of all context and a line should be drawn underneath it. Let's be honest, this started out as Chuff being shagged off for dropping his P&J and it's now turned into a witch hunt with Dufus as the prey. Come on guys, let's not let history repeat itself - life's far too short for this kind of shit - yeah??
mick the knife
Registered User
Must be something they put in the water in Lincolnshire
Woo hoo, did I go to bed too early last night or what?
Chuff, the initial comment was fairly innocuous,but
Dufus, on top of many other comments that you had made in the past, and in an emotionally charged situation, it was, as pointed out earlier, the straw that broke the camel's back.
The sensible thing to do at that point would have been a PM saying no offence was meant, which would probably have got a PM back, saying OK, no harm done.
Instead, you continued to inflame the situation and have stubbornly continued to do so despite the many posts advising you much the same way.
Show some backbone man, and admit that, once the comment caused offence, you should have had the balls to back down rather than posting diatribe after diatribe saying what a closed shop this forum is.
Oh, and whilst you are correcting other people's typos (probably caused by emotionally charged typing fingers) may I point out that nepotism is spelt with an o not an i.
Chuff, keep eating the pies and hope your P&J gets better soon! (want a sweetie?)
The goddess has now spoken!
Chuff, the initial comment was fairly innocuous,but
Dufus, on top of many other comments that you had made in the past, and in an emotionally charged situation, it was, as pointed out earlier, the straw that broke the camel's back.
The sensible thing to do at that point would have been a PM saying no offence was meant, which would probably have got a PM back, saying OK, no harm done.
Instead, you continued to inflame the situation and have stubbornly continued to do so despite the many posts advising you much the same way.
Show some backbone man, and admit that, once the comment caused offence, you should have had the balls to back down rather than posting diatribe after diatribe saying what a closed shop this forum is.
Oh, and whilst you are correcting other people's typos (probably caused by emotionally charged typing fingers) may I point out that nepotism is spelt with an o not an i.
Chuff, keep eating the pies and hope your P&J gets better soon! (want a sweetie?)
The goddess has now spoken!
Had to be done~~~~~ !!
Took a bit of finding but got there in the end!!
Enjoy the moment
ChuffMeister vs Dufus? Who's your money on?
Took a bit of finding but got there in the end!!
Enjoy the moment
ChuffMeister vs Dufus? Who's your money on?