Tattoos

[ianrobbo1]

Sorry m8, if your shallow enough to let a tattoo get between you, it's probably best she gets rid of you now rather than later,:dunno:good luck with your love life in the future, but it's going to be a very rare thing to find a woman with the quality's your "ideally" looking for!!:dunno:

 

[Saffie]

It is not that I am shallow Ian, like I explained tattoos on woman is a huge turn off for me. I dont find it sexually attractive at all and when I see woman with tattoos I walk on by. If I fell in love with a woman and liked the way she looked and she goes and changes it into something I do not find sexy or attractive and she is not willing to get to a happy medium/maybe a sexy design/smaller tattoo etc.. I think it is her thats being selfish and only thinking of herself. She made a decision that impacts on both of us without wanting to get my input or take my feelings into consideration. By the time she told me about the tattoo she had made up her mind.

 

[Saffie]

Thanks Lumpy. I have thought to myself wow you letting a woman you love go because of a tattoo wtf is wrong with you, but then I want to be proud of my girlfriend. I want to look at her and think you are the most beautiful woman on this planet and you tick all the boxes for me.

I have been through a nasty divorce with the ex sleeping around. I lost my daughter and it was very sore, but I came out on top.

I then had a best friend become a girlfriend and was generally very happy until she showed her true colours and again I was hurt.

This is the first time that I am ending a relationship on the previous occasions I did not have a say in it. I think that is way I am gutted and finding it very hard to live with my decision. I really do love this woman and the time spent with her were by far the happiest I have ever been, but like she said she wants more tattoos after this one, so I learn to live with this one then she comes home with another..another..when does it stop? I can only think of what I would do and as mentioned she does not like goatie beards..I do, but I do not grow it cause she does not like it and I want her to like what she sees, I do not want to do something that would turn her off. If she really loved me would she still have gone ahead with her plan even though I tried to explain how I feel? Maybe its not the tattoo, maybe its just the fact that she does not care about my feelings.

 

[Pow-Lo]

yup, she could go for a good old home grown English guy instead of a reject from another country. Or is that not what you are getting at?

No, you insensitive cock-monkey, that is not what I meant! :bang:

 

[trigantle]

now you can grow a goatee...........result :-0)

 

[Pow-Lo]

Sorry m8, if your shallow enough to let a tattoo get between you, it's probably best she gets rid of you now rather than later,:dunno:good luck with your love life in the future, but it's going to be a very rare thing to find a woman with the quality's your "ideally" looking for!!:dunno:

Ian, it's not shallow mate. If a burd does/says/wears/eats/smokes etc something that's a major turn off then it's bound to get in the way.

If, say, he binned her on the grounds that she wasn't earning enough money, drove something gay like a Ford Ka or a red 'bird then that would be shallow.

Tattoos are permanent; they can be sexy but they can also be a major cock-flopper. We're all wired different; one man's meat is another man's poison bl4hbl4h

Whatever your views on his stance, he is not shallow because of it.

 

[trigantle]

looks like it may be gay stance from now on.........with goatee :-0)

 

[trigantle]

Dude, fuck all like a woman to mess with the head. Been there done that, after nearly 20yrs of marriage, still didn't know the bitch. They have an emotional by pass when it comes to inflicting mental pain.

Your relationship is over, not your life. Part as friends, stay off the plonk, plan a day at a time.

One thing you can be certain, no matter how bad you feel, come on here, chances are we'll make it worse :-0)

 

[Pow-Lo]

Dude, fuck all like a woman to mess with the head. Been there done that, after nearly 20yrs of marriage, still didn't know the bitch. They have an emotional by pass when it comes to inflicting mental pain.

Your relationship is over, not your life. Part as friends, stay off the plonk, plan a day at a time.

One thing you can be certain, no matter how bad you feel, come on here, chances are we'll make it worse :-0)

And then go find yourself some old trout with huge boom-booms, bust her back doors in and fire your porridge cannon all over her face then spend the rest of the day in a stupor of self-loathing.

You hang in there, Boitje! :-0)

 

[trigantle]

fuckin a :-0)

 

[Pugwash]

As far as I'm concerned, a fumble in the dark is the same with my wife regardless of how much ink she has. If she goes and gets some luminous ones now I'll cry!

 

[Jaws]

Bottom line.. and no joke or tasking the piss..

The day a bloke says he understands women is the day he is telling me he is as gay as a red bird owner ( sorry )

But it works both ways Saffie.
Women in general have absolutely NO concept of how men think.. Sure, a lot will say they do, and then carp on about never growing up, wanting big boys toys, spend too much time in the workshop, WHY dont you want to watch a chick flick, etc etc etc..

The best we as a race can hope for is a mutual truce..

When one side other breaks that truce badly it is up to the other side to either put up or shut up.

If you believe your lady has no respect for you by not at least meeting half way, then mate, it is time to call it a day, cos sooner or later it will not be a tat, it will be something that will REALLY hurt, and maybe crush you beyond recovery

You have met and been with a woman you loved.. yet even after the time spent with her either you did not know her, or she just did not know you..

The world is full of people looking for the perfect partner.. most are lonely sad folk..

No matter what happens, do not see it as a defeat, merely a set back in your life plan..

No one knows for sure what tomorrow will bring.. I am a great believer in the old adage 'when a door closes, another opens'

Take time to sit back.. but not too much time.

After all, there could be someone waiting for you right this second down the club who you aint met yet......

 

[karlos2000]

As far as I'm concerned, a fumble in the dark is the same with my wife regardless of how much ink she has. If she goes and gets some luminous ones now I'll cry!

this actually got me thinking, I never shag in the dark ........ never have ...... gotta be watching the action ..... do people still do that 1850s thing and switch lights off?

:dunno:

 

[sistab]

Witness Stand

Hey guys. I have read all of your testimonies, now it is time that I take the stand ... I am, in fact, the lady that Saffie calls his girlfriend. I sincerely adore him, and when I picture my future, I picture it with him in it, until the day one of us takes our last bike ride ...
Just to set the record straight ... when I met Saffie, I had two small tattoos. One on my leg (a seahorse), and another on my arm (a bunny). They each measure approximately two centimetres, and are both placed where they cannot be seen when wearing jeans and a t-shirt.
I have a theory about tattoos ... I believe that God gave us a temple (our body), and we should decorate it. Churches are decorated, houses are painted, bodies are tattoo'd.
Anyway, at the time of getting together with Saffie, he knew I was not happy with the tattoo on my arm, and I informed him that I would like to have it covered with another tattoo.
The said dragon mentioned above is approximately 5cm in size, and will also not be visible to the world while wearing a t-shirt.
I agree with the post that there must be something more that precedes the tattoo. I only wish I could work out what it is, and fix it.
Will be a very lonely life without you Saffie. I love you.

 

[Pow-Lo]

Hey guys. I have read all of your testimonies, now it is time that I take the stand ... I am, in fact, the lady that Saffie calls his girlfriend. I sincerely adore him, and when I picture my future, I picture it with him in it, until the day one of us takes our last bike ride ...
Just to set the record straight ... when I met Saffie, I had two small tattoos. One on my leg (a seahorse), and another on my arm (a bunny). They each measure approximately two centimetres, and are both placed where they cannot be seen when wearing jeans and a t-shirt.
I have a theory about tattoos ... I believe that God gave us a temple (our body), and we should decorate it. Churches are decorated, houses are painted, bodies are tattoo'd.
Anyway, at the time of getting together with Saffie, he knew I was not happy with the tattoo on my arm, and I informed him that I would like to have it covered with another tattoo.
The said dragon mentioned above is approximately 5cm in size, and will also not be visible to the world while wearing a t-shirt.
I agree with the post that there must be something more that precedes the tattoo. I only wish I could work out what it is, and fix it.
Will be a very lonely life without you Saffie. I love you.

I can't make my mind up if it's either pretty brave or pretty cool of you to come on here and put your side across. Either way, respect is due :bow:

Two observations:

1. If you REALLY love him, make a compromise over the tatt with him and stick with it. I dunno, wear a t-shirt when you shag or something.

2. And you Boitje, 5cm? Really? FFS, I thought it was head to toe from the way you were going on.

Please, for the love of goodness, both of you go get a room and go fix this!

Thank you and goodnight :-0)

 

[edsaz]

I started reading this and understood saffie's point of view, i dont like tattoos very much at all, I dont have any mainly because i havent seen anything that i would want to have "painted" on my body permanently. dont get me wrong, i have seen loads of tats that i think look awesome just dont want them on me.
This brings me on to the fact that i met my wife several times before we began seeing each other and she was with another bloke, we chatted at parties and i thought, if she becomes single i need to get in there !, so i did !! So my point is, despite not liking tattoos i then discovered that the girl i very much wanted to be with had a huge tattoo of a purple rose covering her left shoulder, at first i found it a bit offputting but now i dont even notice it's there, if you asked me to draw it to show you what it looks like i would struggle to as it doesn't draw my attention any more, it's just something that is there, it wont change, and it wont go away. I guess i have just learnt to live with/ ignore it.
I guess it's a case of weighing up what you can accept, i must admit if my wife said she wanted to cover herself in tattoo's i dont think i would be finding her very attractive any more, not sure i would go so far as to leave her though ???? maybe 3 kids make a difference in that train of thought though!!
Not really sure what point i am trying to make here,think a bottle of wine has just made me type shit, just offering a viewpoint from my own experience.

 

[Barrie]

A friend of mine's son had a small anchor tattooed on his cheek. His mother offered to pay to have a "W" put in front of it. 8rfl@

 

[Saffie]

Ok this is the tattoo, the head and only the head will be covering the small bunny, so yes it is a lot bigger than the original tattoo.

She also mentioned getting more done and as said she didnt take into consideration how I felt about this one the next one might even be worse.

When she said she was going to have it covered I thought with something of similar size, maybe I am just stupid, but I feel that it would have been nice if she made me part of her decision process instead of just doing it. Even taking me along to have a look at it once tha artist has traced it and given us a chance to reflect on it before having it tattoo'd, but she opted for a day I was working going alone and again I feel powerless.

Ok yes it is her body, but last time I checked couples made big decisions together and took each others feelings into consideration and did not just steamroll their partners.

I do love her, but I can not be supportive of something that I think would look stupid on a girl. One of the guys at work actually summed it up perfect. If he saw that tattoo on a woman he'd think shes lesbian...and hes covered in tattoos.

 

[gypsy]

Cool tat @tu*

 

[Saffie]

Edsaz thank you I do understand your point.

I have asked plenty of tattoo wearing folk and you know what, they could all tell me when they had it done and who was with them and what made them decide to do it. Ok its not my tattoo, but wouldve been nicer if I was part of it and could look at it and say yeah we came up with the idea....

Gypsy I like it tbh its a nice tattoo, but not for a woman, I can see it look good on a bloke, football club tattoos are seen on them all the time, but on a woman??