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When is it time to quit
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Chunky Monkey
Registered User
Wolfie said:
are you on about biking or life in general ??
R
roXXo
Guest
If you are in good health, mentally as well as physically, then perhaps when you just fancy a change.
If you are at a point where you are thinking that you cannot go on as it is, because there are factors affecting your life so much that it it making you ill and you cannot function, then there are options.
Sharing your feelings, getting things off you chest.
Seeking medical help, including counselling.
Unfortunately, once you are in such a state, you are not the one who can make rational judgements as to what is best for you.
There may be underlying problems that you never dreamt of.
In my case, Carol had to drag me to the doctors.
I was diagnosed with depression. I won't bore you with my case history but once a diagnosis has been made then a programme can be put into place to help. Counselling helped a little. Drugs help(ed) a lot.
Nothing to be ashamed of.
If you have diabetes, you may have to take insulin for the rest of your life.
It looks like I will be on a certain drug for the rest of mine. The drug levels are montitored and adjusted and at the moment it works for me.
Others may disagree :}
I know there are other BIRD members that have suffered/are suffering from depression and associated problems.
Anxiety and stress are often dismissed not being real but there are people out there that know the score. Brain chemical imbalance can easily be addressed by professionals.
Very complicated question Wolfie and no easy answer but if you have concerns over your health, don't leave it too late.
It not only affects you but your family and those that are important to you.
SEEK HELP NOW
:beer:
Wolfie, pm me if you have any questions. I will only be too pleased to share my experiences with you if you think it may help
If you are at a point where you are thinking that you cannot go on as it is, because there are factors affecting your life so much that it it making you ill and you cannot function, then there are options.
Sharing your feelings, getting things off you chest.
Seeking medical help, including counselling.
Unfortunately, once you are in such a state, you are not the one who can make rational judgements as to what is best for you.
There may be underlying problems that you never dreamt of.
In my case, Carol had to drag me to the doctors.
I was diagnosed with depression. I won't bore you with my case history but once a diagnosis has been made then a programme can be put into place to help. Counselling helped a little. Drugs help(ed) a lot.
Nothing to be ashamed of.
If you have diabetes, you may have to take insulin for the rest of your life.
It looks like I will be on a certain drug for the rest of mine. The drug levels are montitored and adjusted and at the moment it works for me.
Others may disagree :}
I know there are other BIRD members that have suffered/are suffering from depression and associated problems.
Anxiety and stress are often dismissed not being real but there are people out there that know the score. Brain chemical imbalance can easily be addressed by professionals.
Very complicated question Wolfie and no easy answer but if you have concerns over your health, don't leave it too late.
It not only affects you but your family and those that are important to you.
SEEK HELP NOW
:beer:
Wolfie, pm me if you have any questions. I will only be too pleased to share my experiences with you if you think it may help
ianrobbo1
good looking AND modest
if this is work related, it's already past time to go!! make bloody sure the people concerned know exactly why your going, if your problem is with the boss just fek off and dump him in it IF he's unwilling to take on and sort your grievance, if it's with a work "colleague" such as your m8 the "jo wit" tell the boss and let him know why your going and he "may" start taking you seriously!!! :dunno:
and as I've always said there IS life after "insert name of firm" as lots of us can testify, 9 x out of 10 the next job you do you will find it easier with less stress!! :dunno:
the fact your asking tells us all the above!!
and as I've always said there IS life after "insert name of firm" as lots of us can testify, 9 x out of 10 the next job you do you will find it easier with less stress!! :dunno:
the fact your asking tells us all the above!!
Wolfie
Is a lunp
Question was aimed for Life in general. living, marriage, work, lifestyle etc.
Got thinking thats all, as xmas has the highest suicide rate of the year, more upset people than happy ones in what is supposed to be a wonderful time of year.
Wondered if there was a time to quit that just hits you, or people think about things first, or even just put up with it.
Got thinking thats all, as xmas has the highest suicide rate of the year, more upset people than happy ones in what is supposed to be a wonderful time of year.
Wondered if there was a time to quit that just hits you, or people think about things first, or even just put up with it.
I think it all depends on the individuals tolerance threshold, I have known people stay in unhappy/abusive relationships just because they cannot see an alternative or cannot be bothered seeking an alternative.
Job wise, over the past couple of years I have not been as happy as in previous years, but I am under 7 years away from my pension. I am 48 years old so unlikely to find another job that pays a decent wage, if I packed the job in now it could be the biggest mistake of my life, one of the things that keeps me turning up for work is the people I work with (well some of them anyway) the job is neither mentally or physically challenging until one of our charges kicks off, so basically it is I suppose an easy option. when I retire that is the time my options open.
Job wise, over the past couple of years I have not been as happy as in previous years, but I am under 7 years away from my pension. I am 48 years old so unlikely to find another job that pays a decent wage, if I packed the job in now it could be the biggest mistake of my life, one of the things that keeps me turning up for work is the people I work with (well some of them anyway) the job is neither mentally or physically challenging until one of our charges kicks off, so basically it is I suppose an easy option. when I retire that is the time my options open.
Biker Babe
Registered User
Sorry long Rant!!!
Got thinking thats all, as xmas has the highest suicide rate of the year, more upset people than happy ones in what is supposed to be a wonderful time of year.
what is supposed to be a wonderful time of year.
Well Andy re: the above statement, as everyone who knows us knows, both me and steve TOTALLY HATE christmas, people say that we're wrong and that we should make the most out of it and enjoy it like everyone else, cos its a great time of year! :bang:
Well, we've tried but it just don't happen, all christmas does is bring back all the bad memories of past events and of what we've lost & miss....
Everyone we loved has died at christmas, so how the hell can we be all cheery & happy when it just comes back to us year after year all the memories and pain just like it was yesterday, so christmas is NOT a happy time of year, well not for us anyway.
But we carry on cos we have no choice, but then we want to go on, we're lucky in the respect that we have each other, reasonably good health, good friends etc etc, for some people though there not even lucky enough to have that and can't face going on I guess, the prospect of bloody christmas with all and sundry being happy and in high spirits talking about there family's and friends and where they are going to spend christmas and with whom is enough to get some thinking about how alone they are with no family, crap job, etc. etc. and can't think of any reason to go on!!!
Sorry just my opinion but thats the reason I can see for people wanting to end it all at christmas!!! Christmas is not all that it's cracked up to be, and like you said if it,s such a GOOD time of year why then does christmas hold the highest suicide rate of the whole year???? :bang:
Bar Humbug I say !!!!
BAN CHRISTMAS!!!! :bang: :bang:
Got thinking thats all, as xmas has the highest suicide rate of the year, more upset people than happy ones in what is supposed to be a wonderful time of year.
what is supposed to be a wonderful time of year.
Well Andy re: the above statement, as everyone who knows us knows, both me and steve TOTALLY HATE christmas, people say that we're wrong and that we should make the most out of it and enjoy it like everyone else, cos its a great time of year! :bang:
Well, we've tried but it just don't happen, all christmas does is bring back all the bad memories of past events and of what we've lost & miss....
Everyone we loved has died at christmas, so how the hell can we be all cheery & happy when it just comes back to us year after year all the memories and pain just like it was yesterday, so christmas is NOT a happy time of year, well not for us anyway.
But we carry on cos we have no choice, but then we want to go on, we're lucky in the respect that we have each other, reasonably good health, good friends etc etc, for some people though there not even lucky enough to have that and can't face going on I guess, the prospect of bloody christmas with all and sundry being happy and in high spirits talking about there family's and friends and where they are going to spend christmas and with whom is enough to get some thinking about how alone they are with no family, crap job, etc. etc. and can't think of any reason to go on!!!
Sorry just my opinion but thats the reason I can see for people wanting to end it all at christmas!!! Christmas is not all that it's cracked up to be, and like you said if it,s such a GOOD time of year why then does christmas hold the highest suicide rate of the whole year???? :bang:
Bar Humbug I say !!!!
BAN CHRISTMAS!!!! :bang: :bang:
gerryc
Registered User
After another failed attempt at controlling my drinking two weeks ago I decided its time to stop kidding myself on and give up drinking all together. I can see no other alternative if I want to keep all the things that are important to me. I come from a family of problem drinkers and have realised that I am no different.
At the moment this is easy as it has only been a couple of weeks but I know it will get harder.
One thing that helps at the moment is that I hope being sober for an extended period will help me take stalk of life and where I want it to go. Might not work for everyone but for my I can see no alternative short of pissing it all up against a wall. Looking at George Best this week helped to confirm the road I was on.
Not quite sure this is what you mean and I don't intend hijacking a serious thread but it seems to reflect many of the same problems.
At the moment this is easy as it has only been a couple of weeks but I know it will get harder.
One thing that helps at the moment is that I hope being sober for an extended period will help me take stalk of life and where I want it to go. Might not work for everyone but for my I can see no alternative short of pissing it all up against a wall. Looking at George Best this week helped to confirm the road I was on.
Not quite sure this is what you mean and I don't intend hijacking a serious thread but it seems to reflect many of the same problems.
O
OzCrow
Guest
If you are troubled by anything in life talk it over with someone. Better still seek professional help. I lost my brother to suicide after a marriage breakup 2 months ago. It appears he had been suffering depression for some time prior but didn't talk to anyone about it. His 'treatment' was hitting the grog every night. He left behind two beautiful young kids who will miss him dearly.
Seek help before it get's out of control.
Seek help before it get's out of control.
richard
Cool as a Cucumber
Ummm good one I did some thing very very silly last week and if it was not for two very close friends on this site, were not in the right place at the right time, i would probably not be sitting here now. I am far from being "over it" but well on the way. The only way for me was to get into that state as i find it difficult to talk to peeps about shit like this,
Ummm Time to quit my advice would be find someone you can trust and let it all out m8y it helped me like i said im far from the light at the end of the tunnell but it helped me a shit load.
R
Ummm Time to quit my advice would be find someone you can trust and let it all out m8y it helped me like i said im far from the light at the end of the tunnell but it helped me a shit load.
R
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