when my eldest daughter was at school she was always getting into trouble, she wanted to be one of the pack, and was nearly expelled on three occasions, my wife and I tried everything, we were both literally brought to tears of frustration of how to handle her, I even took her to the local police station to try to frighten some sense into her, but all seemed to no avail,
A year before she was due to leave school we went to an open night and all the teachers had just about given up on her, her science teacher said the best grades she can expect in science are double f, my daughter ended up with double b her lowest gade was a d but she ended up with mostly A's and B's, she is now a PA to a company director, a couple of years ago we were discussing her childhood, and she said " do you know I tried everything to get you to hate me, but you never gave up on me, and when the teachers all gave me bad reports I could see the despair in your faces, thats when I decided to grow up" I was gobsmacked at her comments but I felt proud knowing that as parents we did everything that we could and it worked out in the end, I wonder how many parents of todays criminal population gave up on them