Murt
Letch
Since my old man popped his clogs in February, my mother has slowly gone downhill. Mentally, physically and mental health wise. Low level dementia now.
She has carers four times a day, but they can only stay for a short time, and family see her regularly whenever possible. (Took me 3 hours yesterday to do 100 miles down the M6) I'm sure we all know the situation. She rings daily saying how lonely and upset she is.
Today I took her to some assisted living homes to have a look and decide, Mrs M and I had already whittled it down to a few aftercare being all day Saturday visiting loads.
On the way home in the car, she said that she liked the last place ( the one we hoped she liked, with the best reports).
Loved the staff, room was decent and nice view. Food looked and smelled great. She even remembered the name of the woman who was in then next room that she had been chatting to for quite a while!
Looking good so far eh.
Get her home.
Brew and a chat about the next things to do...... ( Social Services have agreed to fund her if she agrees to move into care)
Then
She pipes up, as if it's a request to turn the telly over.....
"I'm not going into any of those places. They are all full of old people, ( she's 89 today), nutters and people just waiting to die, and all the staff have big arses!".
I could have bloody strangled her!
So.. I now have to tell Social Services that we think she likes a place but she can't remember liking it. And hope they don't do another one on one interview to ask her what she wants.
She will probably ask for a cat.
Murt.
She has carers four times a day, but they can only stay for a short time, and family see her regularly whenever possible. (Took me 3 hours yesterday to do 100 miles down the M6) I'm sure we all know the situation. She rings daily saying how lonely and upset she is.
Today I took her to some assisted living homes to have a look and decide, Mrs M and I had already whittled it down to a few aftercare being all day Saturday visiting loads.
On the way home in the car, she said that she liked the last place ( the one we hoped she liked, with the best reports).
Loved the staff, room was decent and nice view. Food looked and smelled great. She even remembered the name of the woman who was in then next room that she had been chatting to for quite a while!
Looking good so far eh.
Get her home.
Brew and a chat about the next things to do...... ( Social Services have agreed to fund her if she agrees to move into care)
Then
She pipes up, as if it's a request to turn the telly over.....
"I'm not going into any of those places. They are all full of old people, ( she's 89 today), nutters and people just waiting to die, and all the staff have big arses!".
I could have bloody strangled her!
So.. I now have to tell Social Services that we think she likes a place but she can't remember liking it. And hope they don't do another one on one interview to ask her what she wants.
She will probably ask for a cat.
Murt.